Life lessons learned from a death

Swans in the sun 52836_StaatsThis past week has been a time of reflection.  The sudden and untimely death of my sister-in-law has remained fresh in my mind.  I appreciate all the comments and emails, the cards of concern, and the thoughts and prayers;  they’ve been helpful and comforting.  I’ve struggled with what lessons I can learn from this death and many things have come to mind:  (1) live a full life, each and every day, (2) plan for tomorrow, but live today, (3) don’t take anything or anyone for granted, (4) say “I love you” to the people you love, (5) extend a prayer of gratitude each morning for the grace of seeing the sun rise on yet another day.  I have a magnet that I have kept on the refrigerator door for the past 15 years.  So many days I don’t even notice it, but the words ring so true now:  “Live with intention.  Walk to the edge.  Do what you love.  Live as if this is all there is.”  – Mary Anne Radmacher

Beginnings and endings

Honeymoon departure 7D_3013_StaatsI write this entry with a heavy heart.  Last weekend we journeyed south to the Kansas City area to celebrate the wedding of my brother and his new bride.  A second marriage for both of them, they had found happiness and joy and the excitement of their shared future.  Their honeymoon was planned to be a motorcycle ride along the North Shore of Minnesota – an area of pines, and water, and beautiful scenery.  They headed out from our house Tuesday morning and had the time of their lives as they traveled along the shore of Lake Superior.  But the joy turned to sadness in an instant when the bride had a massive stroke on Wednesday morning.  Emergency responders were there quickly and she was airlifted to a trauma center in Duluth.  My brother and I spent the next 36 hours finding our way amongst doctors, surgeons, phone calls and text messages with family out-of-state, and organ donation procedures.  In the end, the damage to my sister-in-law’s brain was too extensive and she passed away on Thursday.  We are all struggling with this untimely change of fate and the sudden slide from the joy of a wedding to the pain of a death.  I mourn the loss of my sister-in-law; a delightful woman who was up to any challenge, who loved her sons and her new extended family, who enjoyed fishing, and who was so very much in love with my brother.  And I mourn the loss to my brother who was so happy with his new bride and looking forward to their future life and adventures together.  I know that the pain will diminish with time, but the hurt is still fresh from these contracted few days.

Daybreak

Daybreak in the cornfield_StaatsI woke up in the dark the other morning, crawled out of bed, slipped on my shorts, T-shirt, and hiking boots and headed out the door with my camera.  I’ve replayed this scenario so many times over the years.  About 10 years ago I was living in Washington and would drive to Mount Rainier to see the sun rise over the mountains.  Now I’m in Minnesota and I drive a few blocks and I’m walking through fields of tasseled corn, the temperature already at 80 degrees.  In both instances I’m aware of so much more than the view in front of me.  There are smells (whether of towering firs and cedars or agriculture fields) and there are sounds (of the creeks and streams that flow from the melting snow or the wind blowing through the corn and giving the geese thermals to float on).  No matter where, there is so much that comes to life as the sun crests the horizon and the day breaks.  The smoke from the wildfires in the west has drifted our way, giving our sunrises and sunsets a deeper shade of red and orange.  This early-morning-time is ripe with the promise of the day (and the adventures) ahead.

Minnesota State Fair fine arts exhibit

Single tree island,early autumn 63751_StaatsThe Minnesota State Fair is in full-swing and summer has made its hot and humid comeback too.  But there is always cool artwork to be seen in the Fine Arts Exhibit.  I’m happy to tell you that my entry “Single tree island, early autumn” was accepted into the exhibit this year.  With a 15% acceptance rate, I feel exceptionally honored that my photograph was juried into the exhibit.  If you’re attending the fair, be sure to spend some time in the Fine Arts Building.  You’ll be treated to some beautiful, imaginative, creative, and unusual art of many kinds – all created by artists from the state of Minnesota.

Fishing through the sunset

Fishing at sunset 2482_StaatsOn a warm summer’s afternoon we returned to one of our favorite small lakes for some fishing.  Our plan was to fish through the sunset and after dark – something I have never done before.  The winds died down throughout the evening and set up for a beautiful sunset, with the colors of the sky reflecting in the quiet of the lake’s surface.  We’d shared some dinner in the boat and the fishing had been successful.  The light in the western sky faded to black, the near-full moon was high in the sky and we were the only ones still out on the water.  We pulled out our fly fishing gear and settled in for some night-time fishing.  Our eyes adjusted to the darkness and our ears became our “eyes” as we listened for the fish to take  the poppers we laid out on the surface.  More reliable for me was feeling the fish tug on the fly line.  It was beautiful to be out in the dark; the shoreline was discernible with the moonlight, the lake’s surface was like glass, the stars came out overhead, and the night sounds surrounded us.  The experience and beauty of this summer’s evening and night on a small lake were now embedded in our memories.